Published by ReadHowYouWant.com on April 10th 2009
Genres: Family & Relationships, Love & Romance
In Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide to Men, Sex, and Love's Deepest Bliss, David Deida explores every aspect of the feminine practice of spiritual intimacy, from sexuality and lovemaking to family and career to emotions, trust, and commitment. Written as a collection of letters from a man to his ''dear lover,''here is this internationally acclaimed writer's invitation to practice love as a living art, as you discover.
Y’all I am not even sure what to think of this book. I picked up cause Dannielle Laporte endorsed him and you all know how much I love Dannielle Laporte. I had thought you could not get any kookier than Eckhart Tolle. I was mistaken. Dear Lover is just…over the top. I have a pretty open mind, but stuff such as “ravished you wide open to God” and the like made me go this dude SERIOUS?!?! Or, “your deep heart meets with his deep heart”. I think that dude took some drugs and proceeded to write this book. I don’t see how a sober person could come up with shit like this.
I DID give it 3.5 stars cause well the writing is poetic and I liked the WRITING. The THEORY is what made me question what David Deida had been smoking. Whatever it is I want some.
I thought about it some more and the more I think about it, the more I feel he has some sense n all of the chaos. Maybe he is like Eckhart Tolle; you have to read his work more than once to get the full grasp of it.
I had to put this book down and think about it for a few days, and I believe in his underlying message even if his language is a bit over the top. He is not an author that I will go around claiming I have read, but I will keep his three stages of loving and submitting entirely to your partner in mind. Other than that…..all I can think of to says oookkk dude.I am New Age myself, and I like to think that I am extremely open minded, but even this book is stretching it.
Maybe that is good, though.Growth comes from living at the edge of your boundaries and stretching until you become free of all preconceived ideas. We need to open ourselves to the infinite, and the only way to do that is to read and practice things that make us slightly unconquerable. I mean the idea of submitting entirely to a man scares the bejesus out of me but maybe we are a half of a soul looking for the other half, and this is the only way to connect. I dunno But I do know that we need to continually take in new ideas and make them our own to live closer to te the source or God whichever you prefer.
So I think this book had some good ideas if you don’t mind over the top language. I say it takes away from it what you will and maybe it is just the thing you need to read.