Author: Hillary

review of queens of geeks

Posted May 25, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments

I received this book for free from netgalley in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.

ISBN: 9781250111395
review of queens of geeksQueens of Geek by Jen Wilde
Published by Feiwel & Friends on March 14th 2017
Genres: Young Adult Fiction, Loners & Outcasts, Romance, Contemporary, LGBT, Social Themes, Mental Illness
Pages: 288
Format: eARC
Source: netgalley
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Three friends, two love stories, one convention: this fun, feminist love letter to geek culture is all about fandom, friendship, and finding the courage to be yourself.
"Full of irreverent humor and in-jokes, it’s geeky and funny, with a heavy dose of self-discovery. . . . . Seeing girls and women uplifting, protecting, and loving each other is extremely powerful especially in the context of fandom." Teen Vogue
"This is the geeky, queer book of our dreams." —SeventeenCharlie likes to stand out. She’s a vlogger and actress promoting her first movie at SupaCon, and this is her chance to show fans she’s over her public breakup with co-star Reese Ryan. When internet-famous cool-girl actress Alyssa Huntington arrives as a surprise guest, it seems Charlie’s long-time crush on her isn’t as one-sided as she thought.
Taylor likes to blend in. Her brain is wired differently, making her fear change. And there’s one thing in her life she knows will never change: her friendship with her best guy friend Jamie—no matter how much she may secretly want it to. But when she hears about a fan contest for her favorite fandom, she starts to rethink her rules on playing it safe.
Queens of Geek by Jen Wilde, chosen by readers like you for Macmillan's young adult imprint Swoon Reads, is an empowering novel for anyone who has ever felt that fandom is family.
Praise for Queens of Geek:
"Seeing girls and women uplifting, protecting, and loving each other is extremely powerful especially in the context of fandom. The book deals head on with issues of mental health, body shaming, sexuality, and internet celebrity, handling them with a delicate and skillful touch." —Teen Vogue
"This is the geeky, queer book of our dreams. . . . This fluffy, nerdy book is perfect for cosplayers and convention-lovers." —Seventeen"Jen Wilde's book about two best friends—one a bisexual young woman of color, the other a young [autistic] woman . . . dealing with anxiety—will be a favorite of anyone who is a fan of geek culture. . . . This fun book about fierce friendships gives voice to a group of diverse female characters who are so defined by so much more than just their mental health and sexuality." —Bustle
Queens of Geek is an emotional, lively story full of characters that leap off the page and slip their hands into yours, inviting you into a world where the geeks and nerds are royalty and fandom is court. Richly realized and defiantly affirming, Queens of Geek reminds us that adventures and romances aren't limited to archetypes but are, in fact, for all of us.” —Katherine Locke, author of Second Position, moderator of #GayYABookClub
"The characters’ diversity provides natural opportunities to explore a number of contemporary teen issues, including race, sexual orientation, feminism, and body image. Some of the most compelling chapters are told from the point of view of Taylor, who fears change, hates crowds, and is on the autism spectrum. . . . Part of Macmillan’s crowdsourced imprint, this celebration of geek culture and fandom promotes diversity and being true to oneself." —School Library Journal
"Queens of Geek is full of book and movie references and is a fun look at the fandom convention phenomena. Taylor's anxiety and experience with Asperger's are treated with sensitivity. . . . Queens of Geek is a fun, quick read that will appeal to romance readers and self-proclaimed geeks." —VOYA
Praise from the Swoon Reads community:
"[Queens of Geek] was an incredibly compelling read, just because it contained a storyline I ABSORBED, and characters so diverse they were a pleasure to read! . . . Mix that with the romance, self-discovery of self-worth, and all the geeky references, this made for a perfect read! I honestly couldn't put it down, reading late into the night to see what happened next! " —Zoie K, reader on
"I love how interesting the story was and how the author addressed the characters' diversity without glossing over it or making it all about that. . . . It reminded me a little of Fangirl." —Lizzie, reader on


When I first saw this on NetGalley I had no idea that it was gonna be such a huge hit in book blogging circles. All I saw was geek in the title and I was all like

fandoms and other nerdy things.

A girl with anxiety HEY THATS ME!!



And I was so overjoyed when I got approved for it. Then I forgot about it until I saw it popping up on alllll the book blogs and I looked on my kindle and I was all like I HAVE IT yay! So I started reading and this book..was…so..good. I read it all in one sitting.


Those of you who know me know that I suffer from anxiety. It can be debilitating at times and it is so infuriating when an author trivializes that actual disorder.  I have read a book where they make it seem if I just set my mind to it then I can overcome the attacks and that is just not true. Trust me no one WANTSan anxiety disorder. It is annoying and it can keep you from being truly happy


it is like you WANT to do things, like in the book she wanted to enter the fan contest to meet the author of her favorite book but her anxiety was so high that the very thought of it freaked her out. I can so relate to that, I mean sometimes I can’t even get up the gumption to leave my apartment. Like her, I also have to prepare for stuff. Like if a friend calls me up wanting to go out THAT VERY MINUTE well it ain’t happening.  Have to have at least 24 hours to mentally prepare me.


I loved all of the geeky stuff in it too. I am a big geek. Although my fandoms seem less cool than the people in the book. Like I am obsessed with Zombies. Anything Zombie and I want it. I even have the Zombie Couch to 5K thingie on my phone so I can pretend to be running for an actual reason than to mindless go nowhere on the treadmill. I could so relate to the comic thingie too I have only recently gotten into the whole Comic Scene but I love it. I used to even play games but I had to quit that or I would never get out of the apartment. Hours and hours I used to spend in the land of World of Warcraft.


I loved the diversity in this book. It is hard to find the book this well was written that has believable diversity in it. These were not just walking diagnoses but rather people that happened to HAVE anxiety and be on the autistic spectrum. They had a bi person in the book and it was so refreshing not to have the person be all like what is wrong with me but rather view it as a natural and normal part of who she was. I loved that.


This is going onto one of my top ten reads this year for sure. In fact, so far this is my favorite read this year. I hope the author writes more soon!



About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Sunday Post

Posted May 21, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments

Hi, Everyone!!! I know I did a disappearing act again but was hard at work getting reading to launch my copywriting website! Head on over and let me know what you think!!

I am part of a group MasterMind and we were discussing which was better, Boardbooster or Tailwind and I had been using Boardbooster but then I thought to myself what if I could use Tailwind scheduler with Boardbooster looping function, would it help me grow faster? So I went and luckily I was eligible for a TailWind free trail again. Then I began hearing about the mysterious and it turns out elusive TailWind Tribes. I looked and looked and couldn’t find it so I contact the help chat thingie and the person told me that it is just in Alpha and it is missing a lot of functions including the ability to get in without someone INVITING you in. Well… I WANTED IN DAMNIT! So began the hunt for someone nice enough to extend me an invite. I finally found a person and now I have Tailwind Tribes!

I have just started playing around with it so I don’t have too much to say about it. It is supposedly like a secret group board that users can pick to pin to their “real” boards. Lucky for you I am a nice person (most of the time) and I created a new tribe for book bloggers, just click here to go join! You don’t need a need an active Tailwind subscription to join but if yu use the link you will get a free month of Tailwind Plus! So what are you waiting for? Come join me!

My new implant is sounding a lot more normal now. Thank the lort…I can’t tell you how horrifying it is to wake up from a tough surgery and then put the implant on and it is all like ahhhhhh…it sounds so fucked up!! WHYYYYY?!? Even with the audiologist assuring me it takes the brain time to get used to it that month between the activation and when it starts to sound pleasant is ab-so-luty horrifying. I mean can you imagine going through a 4-hour surgery then be in pain and it was all for nothing?? It is the stuff nightmares are made out of.

It may even top a ride on the HorrorBus

In book news, I finished Queens of Geeks and The Three Body Problem last week! I was so obsessed with the “Three Body Problem” that I wanted to read the rest of the series so I downloaded the other two books from Amazon. Forget saving money I NEEDED THOSE BOOKS!! I am faced with the question of no sleep til I know what the alien evil overlords do to humankind or do I stretch it out? #bookproblems

Speaking of stretching it out I am doing that with Nasty Gal on Netflix. There is nothing like seeing something for the first time. It is like magic. I know I could always go back and rewatch or maybe there will be a season two? But I am taking my time. I am using it as a reward for hard work. #REWARDS







About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Sunday Salon/Post May 14 2017

Posted May 14, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 5 Comments

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Guess what y’all?? Today is my birthday!! I had a really good birthday so far my Book of the Month books came in, My Gwynniebee clothes came, my caffeine pills came and family gave me some money so I pre-ordered Danielle Laporte’s  new book “White Hot Truth” and it will be delivered on the 16th according to Amazon. I have also been busy getting my new professional copywriting site up and running. I used to use this blog but my mastermind told me I would get more customers if I had a separate site so we shall see. I have been learning a lot. These implants enable me to hear waaaaaay better than hearing aids. Surgery was a bitch but I am so glad I got both implants. Now I have access to all of the training that people put out. I am excited to put them into practice and see what direction this blog goes in.

I have to admit that I haven’t been reading a lot because I have been listening to alllll the podcasts and alllll the music. I have always wanted to listen to podcasts and before with my hearing aids I could HEAR but I couldn’t understand them. But the implants actually bypass the damaged parts of the ear so that the brain is getting all the information. That means things actually make sense rather than sounding all garbled. SO….. I have downloaded like 91 podcasts so far and yeah….that has taken the place of reading. I have also been listening to audiobooks! I  am not too sure how to review them but I will do my best. So far I have finished “Stitches: A Handbook on Meaning, Hope, and Repair” by Anne Lamott. I will be reviewing it soon. Be on the look out for an audiobook review by a Deaf person! LOL 

As for exercise I haven’t been really doing anything cause my foot hurts I tried running yesterday evening on the treadmill and feel something pop in my foot. One of the trainers said it may be a hairline fracture but there was no way I was gonna pony up the cash for an ER or Urgent Care visit so I am just gonna go to the regular Dr tomorrow and that way if he refers me, my insurance will cover it. So for right now I am just staying off of it and hoping for the best. 


I really want to upgrade my phone as this 16 GB phone is not really good for a blogger. I am waiting for the new iPhone in the fall to come out. I remember I bought my MacBook Pro then two months later they came out with the touch bar. GRRRRRR. I am not making the same mistake with my phone. I am biding my time until they release the brand new iPhones. I am anxious to see what they will come up with though.

I plan to get back on my reading streak this week though. I want to want to finish Queens of Geek then read Fervent and Dark Matter. That should be doable.


What are you reading?? Do you have any recs on podcasts or audiobooks? Leave a message in the comments!!!


About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

5 for Sunday

Posted May 7, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments


1-Where did spring go? It was warm then it became cold and rainy. Perfect reading weather yes, but my one million Audiologists appointments have started up again and I WANT IT WARM. I hate going out in less than ideal weather and last Tuesday was miserable. It probably because it was 35 degrees and raining and my dumb ass  was in a summer dress and flip-flops. I have renewed my subscription to Gywenniee Bee and I want to wear all my nice clothes and yes, i like to look good when i leave my apartment and it is hard when you are freezing. You would think after five years of living in Cleveland I would be used to this by now but yet May comes and I am all like  WHY IS IT STILL COLD?!  I had to laugh when my parents came up from KY in summer outfits. I at least still have my winter stuff out but was just to dumb to dress for the weather.

2 I got my second implant last Tuesday and I have another appointment on Monday and a million more for the next year. As with the first I really did not like the sound when they first turned it on but almost a week later and It is growing on me. It is not connected with my bluetooth thingies yet. That will happen tomorrow then I can hear my podcasts and music out of both ears. I now own all the stuff that Advanced Bionics make for their implants. My fave is the TV Link thingies. You hook it up to your TV and it streams straight into the implants. I have been binge watching Netflix with it. Before I was always afraid of annoying my neighbors with the sound turned up but now I can have the TV on mute but It can be as loud as I want it through my implants. I gotta play around with the other toys I got.  I have a microphone that so far I have given my Weight Watchers leader and OMG that person voice straight into my implants. I have thought about going around and handing people the microphone and be all like talk in this please but I havent went there..yet…

3-  Speaking Of Weight Watchers I finally manged to get back on it. After surgery I was eating everything that wasnt nailed down it seemed like. Apparently, when I am in pain I stress eat. I was even proud of myself for getting a small pizza at dominoes and no brownies yesterday. #progress I am waiting to get down to at least 200 before 2017 so I need to get moving. literally. I can’t seem to drag my butt to the Gym so I got a free trial to Beachbody on Demand that I am gonna try again. I ma hoping that with all the workouts on there I will never get bored again. I seem to have burnt out of running to nowhere at the Gym and I get bored fairly easy so we shall see if the workouts on BOD is enough to keep me going every day.

4- Those of you who have read this blog for a while know that I read and reviewed #GirlBoss a couple of years a ago and loved it.  I was searching Netflix and found out that #girlboss is now a series! I know what I am binge watching next!

5- I realized last week that i need to get my butt in gear if I want the rest of the year to be amazing. Surgery is over and I am all recovered so I am ready to rock all of my goals.  That includes fitness and writing goals. I seriously cant belive that it is May. It is like i blinked and half the year has went by. I am no where near where i want to be for this year bit i got six months to make the rest of this year rock. I intend to do it hard. I have a list of things I want to carry out maybe I should make a vision board thingies and when I am tempted to goof off I will look at that and get back to business.


About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Book Review: Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World by Gary Vaynerchuk

Posted May 5, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments

Book Review: Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World by Gary Vaynerchuk
ISBN: 9780062273079
Book Review: Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World by Gary VaynerchukJab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook by Gary Vaynerchuk
Published by Harper Collins on November 26th 2013
Genres: Business & Economics, Marketing, General, Entrepreneurship, E-Commerce, Internet Marketing
Pages: 224
Format: ebook
Source: library
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New York Times bestselling author and social media expert Gary Vaynerchuk shares hard-won advice on how to connect with customers and beat the competition. A mash-up of the best elements of Crush It! and The Thank You Economy with a fresh spin, Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook is a blueprint to social media marketing strategies that really works. 
When managers and marketers outline their social media strategies, they plan for the “right hook”—their next sale or campaign that’s going to knock out the competition. Even companies committed to jabbing—patiently engaging with customers to build the relationships crucial to successful social media campaigns—want to land the punch that will take down their opponent or their customer’s resistance in one blow. Right hooks convert traffic to sales and easily show results. Except when they don’t.
Thanks to massive change and proliferation in social media platforms, the winning combination of jabs and right hooks is different now. Vaynerchuk shows that while communication is still key, context matters more than ever. It’s not just about developing high-quality content, but developing high-quality content perfectly adapted to specific social media platforms and mobile devices—content tailor-made for Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, and Tumblr.

I have been hearing about Gary Vee for years but have never read him until now. I decided to see what all the hype was. I also follow him on Instagram and his personality is really…out there… So I wasn’t too sure what to expect with his books. I know this one was written a while ago so his later books might have a different tone but the tone of this book was waaaayyyyyy more subdued than how he is on Instagram.

I was also looking to learn more about social media. On that aspect, this book seemed more geared toward beginners. I DID learn some twitter tips and twitter seems to be the place where I struggle most so I did come away with some valuable insight. I am testing them to see if they still work as this book was written a couple years ago and we all know how fast social media can change. I mean he had a chapter on Vine and we all know what sad fate befell them.

He also had a chapter on SnapChat. I have to admit I REALLY don’t get SnapChat. I think I am just getting old BUT I did learn how other people use the platform so I will give it more time. People keep adding me on there so I must be doing something right. I LOVE the filters on SnapChat and now with my implants, I can hear people doing the funny voices and what can I say I am easily amused. I am also testing his recommendations for that platform.

I did find his chapter on Pinterest lacking. I mean he makes it sound like all you need is a pretty board and you will get thousands of followers which we know is not true. There is an art to using Pinterest and if you want people to actually find your pins you better have some keywords and such. I felt he could have done better on that but he is not really in the demographic so I should cut him some slack.

All in all, i felt that the overall tone of the book.  Give …give…give..give…. ask was on point. Too often I see people going straight for the asking when they haven’t really given anything yet. It takes the time to build a level of trust up to the point where people are going to part with their hard earned dollars. I recently joined a mastermind but I watched that person’s blog and stuff for TWO YEARS before I was ready to part with my cash. And this is a blogger that gives almost everything away for free. I watched and I waited……and when she launched a mastermind I decided that this was worth my money. So that tactic does work. I also have my eye on some more courses but as of now, i am just seeing what free stuff everyone puts out before I part with a 1000 dollars. I don’t care how well known they are that much money makes me want to poop my pants so it is gonna take a high level of trust before I hand over my card.

Overall I felt this book had some good tips. There were some areas that were lacking so I would recommend you get this book from a library.




About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Monthly Rewind April 2017

Posted May 2, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments

monthly Rewind april 2017


How is it May already???!!! It is like I blinked and half of this year has gone by.  This has been a joyous month. God has really blessed me with my CI implants. I know that there is a huge debate on CI but for ME it has been a blessing. I thank God every day for them they have enabled me to do much. Surgery is rough but in the end, it was more than worth it.

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The biggest thing that happened this month is I got another cochlear ear implant. Surgery was rough but by the time you are reading this, I will be at the audiologist getting the outside part of the implant and then I will be able to hear out of both ears! I haven’t been able to hear out of both ears for most of my adult life so this is huge.

As a treat to making it through surgery without killing or cussing anyone out, I joined The book of the month club. I haven’t read last month’s book yet but I will get to it, I hope, soon. It is already May and time to pick out another book. I Picked  SILENCE WE FELL plus I put EXIT WEST and IMPOSSIBLE FORTRESS in my box.

I also got a subscription to Gwynnie Bee. I need to do something to pull myself out of this rut that I find myself in. I figured dressing up would make me feel….better is not the word I am looking for but it is what comes to mind. I feel the way Gretchen Rubin felt at the beginning of her happiness project. Not sad or depressed but rather needing to find a way to be completely happy where I am. I tend to fall prone to the idea that if only I was someplace else then I would be happy but I forget that no matter where I go I will still have anxiety so I need to just deal with. For me, this month is all about getting dressed and looking good.


I listened to S-Town podcast. This has to go down in history s the first podcast that I have ever understood. I  was floored by it. I had to go back down and download  Serial. There are soooo any good podcasts out there. I am getting better and better with understanding them. Before I had to sit and really focus on it but now I can half listen to it while I clean or while I am doing something else.

One other of my favorite podcast is What Should I Read Next?  I am still making my way through the backlog of her podcasts. I got like a year of that podcast to catch up on.




About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Cochlear Implant Surgery Round Two

Posted April 27, 2017 by Hillary in cochlear ear Implant / 0 Comments

Cochlear Ear Implant Round Two

On April 17, 2017, I had my second implant surgery. I had had one the year before, and it was a huge success. The thought of hearing out of BOTH my ears excited me to no end, but there was one caveat. Surgery. I am not gonna lie the surgery hurts like a mofo. After some talks with trusted friends, I scheduled the surgery and then tried to put it out of my head. The days leading up to surgery I  completely fell off the Weight Watchers band wagon. I stopped tracking and was eating Ben and Jerry’s like it was going out of business. I finally had to admit to myself….I was fucking terrified. I know that I tend to eat my feelings and I am working on it but the days leading up to surgery was not good. I couldn’t focus on my writing, and I couldn’t focus on reading, and it was just a haze of pure terror.

I got to the hospital and admitted that yes I was about to shit my pants and they gave me a shot in my iv of Ativan. That is some real good shit right there. I have never felt so relaxed in my life. I am gonna have to ask my Shrink to give me some more of that. #kiddingnotkidding


So.. The couple hours I spent waiting for surgery was in a blissed out state. I was all like even Ekart Tolle couldn’t have been this blissed out. They wheeled me into surgery, and next thing I know I am breathing in what I thought was oxygen, but the interpreter failed to mention that it was the anesthesia gas and the next thing I know I am struggling to get awake and I screamed out I WASNT READY!


Then the puking started…It started while I was still under so when I woke up I was puking up bile and dry heaving until I thought my ribs would crack into a million tiny parts.


It seemed that the puking would never end. The nurse was holding my head to the side while sucking puke out of my throat and mouth while the American Sign Language interpreter stood by looking mildly horrified.


And you know what.. I still wasn’t ready… It is like the story of my life.. shit happens, and I am all like waaaaiiiiit I wasn’t ready. There is a lesson in this though. That will NEVER be ready. You just gotta take a deep breath go under, and fucking do it.

Write that essay …go on that trip….write that book… Pop some Ativan and get out there and LIVE. Now I sound like a mix of Tony Robbins and Gary Vee…Click To Tweet


Then I was STARVING, so I asked for cookies, and some diet coke and my brain was too muddled to understand that because of all the puking I had done that I couldn’t have anything to drink or eat. I could see the ASL interpreter signing it, but I still kept saying that I want my damn cookies. Finally, the nurse came back with one of those itty bitty 100 calories packs that just make me mad with how itty bitty they are. I mean seriously who the hell came up with the idea of 100 calorie packs? If I want a cookie, I want a real fucking 5 point cookie. I will just count the points and move on. I don’t want three bites of a pretend cookie.


So there I was an extremely sick, pissed off post surgery patient. It was a sight to behold. I think part of the problem was in my HEAD I knew what I was saying, but later my mom told me that it looked like I was manically pinwheeling my arms and croaking out cookies I want my damn cookies!


To say that I did not react well to anesthesia last week would be putting it mildly. I later told friends that the anthesis woman did a piss poor job this year as last year I had no issues. It was harder to wake up this year too. I suspect that they almost gassed me to death, but mom says I just imagine things, but the truth was the experience with the anthesis was shitty compared to last year. So now if I have to have surgery and they asked me if I ever had any problems I can say yes. Heh.


The actual putting the implant in place went great.  The Dr said there were no problems with that part. Last year I was out for three weeks, but here I am a week after surgery ready to get back in business. I am working on creating a new writing website. Nothing is on there yet, but I hope to have it up and running by Monday.


I get the processor  (the outside part) next week, and I am excited to be able to hear well out of both ears. I have never been able to do that. I look forward to many more Skype dates with those of you who I had the pleasure to get to know.



About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Sunday Salon/Post

Posted April 23, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments

I am baccck!!! How many of you missed me? I had my second CI surgery, and it was just as rough as the first. I am glad I only have two ears. I don’t think I could go through more surgeries. In between the dizzy spells and all that fun stuff I have been reading. I think the first quarter reading slump is over. Yay! It worries me when a reading slump goes on and on like that.Do I start to have an exceptional crisis like..AM I REALLY A READER? WHAT IF I NEVER READ AGAIN? It turns out that I was just bored and needed something to jump start my brain and creative juices. I wouldn’t recommend brain surgery to anyone, but it has seemed to have worked for me. I have been a reading fiend ever since I got back from the hospital. Maybe the do flipe the on switch to my brain while they were working in there. So far this year I have felt like I have been operating with the switched turned to off. Ever since last week though I had some crazy good ideas and had been reading a shit ton. Again I wouldn’t recommend head surgery to bust out of the doldrums but if it works…


As a gift for making it through surgery, I gifted myself a book of the month book club book. I choose Start Up since I love satire especially Satire that laughs at different office stuff. Last year I was freaking out. This year, I am not sure what they gave me in my iv, but damn that was good stuff. I instantly felt relaxed as all get out and was all like you when is the party starting? Ok, I lie. I wasn’t THAT relaxed, but it was still a far cry from the near total freak out I had the year before. So I was like I will just join in a Book of the Month Club. I have seen Modern Mrs. Darcy talk about it and anything she likes I am game for a cause you know that lady has great taste.


About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Five books I thought I would hate but didnt

Posted April 20, 2017 by Hillary in bookish life style / 0 Comments

Here are 5 books That I thought I would hate but ended up loving them. Click Through to see what they are.
The Desire Map

I FOUND OUT ABOUT THIS ONE in one of the business groups that I am in on Facebook. People were singing the praises of Danielle Laporte, and I read the description on Amazon and was all like bullshit. But for some reason, I bought it and read it, and now I LOVE that woman. I have read both her books multiple times I have her planner, and I buy her candles. I am obsessed.
A New Earth

iI forgot where I heard about this book, but it sparked my interest, so I got it from the library. My first read through I was like this dude is fucking nuts. But he has a style of writing that just gets under you skin, and you can’t let go, so I needed up reading it like three times and then…..It all made sense. I had to return the library copy so I bought my own and now I am one of those woo-woo people who is all like we must evolve the collective conciseness. I started meditating with headspace, and yes my life has changed for the better ok. If you DO read this book, you gotta read it more than once to really”get it.”
American Housewife

I must admit that it was the name that put me off at first. Then I heard that it got dark and twisted fast and we all know how much I love dark and twisted. I read it and fell in love with i. I know it got mixed reviews on book blogs but I firmly in the camp of LOVED IT!

Lumberjanes was the first comic that I ever read as an adult, and it paved the way for me to become a comic freak. At first, I thought that comics were for freaks and little kids then I read this one and fell in love. Now I can tell you what comic is set in what universe and I read a LOT of comics now. I even went to a comic shop and started a pull list.
Getting Things Done

I read this for the first time in Grad School.I was a perpetual mess at the time trying to handle all that Grad school was throwing at me. I was forever forgetting meetings and appointments and even classes. Then a professor handed me this book and told me to read, and I was like, really a book on the organization? Hahahaha then I read it like two times in one weekend, and it forever changed my life.



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I Improved My Runs In Two Months

Posted April 18, 2017 by Hillary in Weight Watchers / 1 Comment

How I Improved My Runs In Two months.. Click through to read how I drastically improved my running time.

Before Christmas, I collapsed from exhaustion. Then my hold for the Sleep Revolution came in at the library like the universe was telling me, Girl, you need TO SLEEP! After reading that book, I have become slightly obsessed with a good night sleep. I used to think a “good” night meant 6 hours till I got to the part where pro athletes slept 10 to 12 hours! I am far and never will be a pro athlete, but I have been working out, and like anyone that takes it even a bit seriously, I like to see improvements. I thought well why not aim for ten hours a night?

You would think that sleep would come easily, but you be wrong. I apparently had hard wire myself to NOT sleep until my body shut itself down. I mainlined caffeine. My anxiety was sky high, and my runs on the treadmill seemed to have plateaued at an embarrassing 4.0. This may speak to my vanity but my running a 4.0 which is sloooooow was getting embarrassing.I saw one lady running a 9.0 for a solid hour, and here I was just peddling along at 4.0, so I decided to take some advice out of the pro athletes book and clean up my diet and work on getting 10 hours sleep a night. At first, it was so bad, I begged my Dr for some Ambien and that stuff WORKS, but you feel groggy all the next day with it. Plus hello side effects. So I worked on natural ways to get sleep.  First of all, I remind myself I was doing this for my health and to improve my performance in the gym. I did more research, and I found lots of info which can be summed up in this photo

I knew that I needed sleep to be able to increase my runs and therefore the efficacy of my workouts so that I could get in shape and lose weight after (I hoped). Running also helps my anxiety and depression, so it was very beneficial for me to make the best of them.

After failing to sleep more than 5 hours for a few nights in a row, I made an appointment with my Dr and left with a bottle of Ambien. That first night of real sleep in more than a year was blissful, but I also knew I needed to develop some good sleep hygiene. I used to smoke a pack a day and weighed 315 pounds so you can imagine where I was starting from. I talked to a few friends, and they suggested that I try Lavender essential oil. I had my doubts but I bought some, and when it arrived plugged in the diffuser and dumped all that it would take and what do you know it worked! I knew my body had to recover from all of the abuses that I had put it through, so I did not expect my body to be rested all in one night. I also decided to ease back on my workouts until I was all caught up on sleep. It seemed counterintuitive at the time, but everyone was telling me that is what I should do so I did. Slowly I began to feel better.

I started also taking hot baths and rubbing lavender oil with coconut oil on me. I also bought me a subscription to Brain.Fm and listened to their sleeping track. I put in on for two hours, and it worked. One thing that I wish that I had changed beforehand but that my stubborn self-held out on was keeping my bedroom cool. I thought I was the kind of person that liked it nice and warm, but I found that after adjusting my bedroom temperature I slept better!

After about a month I felt like I was healing in the exhaustion department. I had more energy. I had better appetite control, and so I decided to try running as fast and as long as I could again. After about three weeks I got the surprise of my life. I could run at  6.0 for 20 minutes! I was shocked. I mean I had struggled with my running for MONTHS, and yet after six weeks of properly sleeping, i was able to run faster longer.

Sleep has many benefits. It seems that here in the USA we take pride in saying how tired we are as if it is a badge of honor.  I used to be te same way, but now I make sure to get my 10 hours of sleep in a night. I will never again try and push myself to the limits of physical exhaustion. It is just not worth it. I am also cosigning weight faster, and my Dr said my blood pressure and everything is now in the healthy range.

A bonus is that I am more productive! I used to think it took me ages to type out an article and that I had adult ADHD when in reality I was just exhausted. I now can get more things done in lesser time than ever before. It has been almost six months since I was in the Dr office and they told me I was suffering from exhaustion. At first, I was embarrassed. I mean we live in a culture where one prides our self to keep going and going and going. We are all paying a terrible price by believing this. It hurts our waistline, our productivity and yes even our workouts. So many times I hear people in the gym talk about how they push and push, but they seem to be regressing. I am always there to tell them my story and that once I started getting enough sleep, everything improved.


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About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!