Book Review: The Cozy Life: Rediscover the Joy of the Simple Things Through the Danish Concept of Hygge by Pia Edberg

Posted April 14, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments

Hygge is the best. Come read on how to hygge with the best of them.
Book Review: The Cozy Life: Rediscover the Joy of the Simple Things Through the Danish Concept of Hygge by Pia EdbergThe Cozy Life: Rediscover the Joy of the Simple Things Through the Danish Concept of Hygge by Pia Edberg
on January 1st 1970
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five-stars

In today’s world, we’re constantly rushing from one thing to the next and are struggling with information overload. We’re more disconnected from ourselves and our loved ones than ever before. Rediscover the joy of the simple things through the Danish concept of Hygge in The Cozy Life. This book will inspire you to slow down and enjoy life’s cozy moments!

I meant to read this book in the depths of winter, but I had the longest reading slump. It is over now thank goodness, but for a while there it was like my brain was broken. I had writer’s block AND  a reading slump. I finally got around to reading this, and while Hygee is mostly associated with the holiday season I found in this book that it can even be practiced in the summer!

In the summer I take great care to make my balcony a welcoming place to read and write. I have the perfect chair I pick out flowers and decorations, and I feel good. And I found that this is what Hygee is all about. It is making yourself feel good no matter the season.

I had heard of Hygee, and it was big this year, but I was still kinda stumped on what it all about until I read The Cozy Life. In this book, Edberg explains that the Danish have long winter nights so instead of getting all sad and moping and loading up on fake sunshine supplements from tanning beds (don’t judge and don’t lecture) and pills, they make the best of what could be a fucking depressing situation. I mean 14 hours of darkness, my ass would be moving. The people that have to deal with the long nights they do it by lighting candles and have soft fluffy blankets and all the cozy stuff and hang out with friends and cook good food and just generally have a good time. It SOUNDS fun, but I still would go insane with 14 hours of darkness. Hygee or not.

If you are looking for a more in-depth view of hygee and how to incorporate it into your everyday life, then you should read this book. I got some great ideas. I am not too fond of candles since I am paranoid I am gonna burn the apartment building down, so I thought why not give essential oils a try. So I am gonna order me some oils and get some fluffy blankets and be all cozy. Even reading this book it made me feel good.

This is a book that will inspire you to live the hygee lifestyle. I now want to experience a deeper relationship with my friends and the people around me. This book is like a warm hug, so I urge you to pick it up!

five-stars
Hillary

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Bookworm Confessions: I Bow Out of Events So I Can Stay Home and Read

Posted April 13, 2017 by Hillary in Bookworm Confessions / 2 Comments

I bow out of events so i CAN STAY HOME AND READ

I will admit it. I am not always busy when I say I am. Many times I just want to stay home and read the book I am in the middle of. There is nowhere I rather be than curled up in my recliner with good wine and some paleo snacks are reading the night away.

I know that I am human, and humans need interactions, but seriously sometimes humanity is a way too much for me to handle. Admit it; you have felt the same way. You look at the news, or some drama breaks out, and you just want to hide in your hidey hole until either the end times comes or humanity has regained its senses.

So yes I am guilty of saying I need to stay home to write when I just want to read whatever book I just got from NetGalley.

I love that I can use books to escape. When I read a book, I feel as if I am in that world that the author has created, and I know that sooner or later all the problems will be solved.  All tied up neatly.  Most of the time. Some books leave you with the feeling of WTF but MOST times there will be a sort of happy ending.

People may think that reading is a waste of time but studies show that reading can help you develop empathy and compassion among other things. It can also give you a different frame of looking at issues you may have in real life. I know that I have had problems and after reading a book I felt relief that I am not the only one. I feel that if the author could dream it up, it HAS to have happened to someone somewhere. Even in fantasy and sci-fi, you can see behavior that occurs in real life, and you can get a different perspective. Like in Ringworld the girl leaves the dude for another guy. The world the author created was complete fantasy, but the ACTIONS were something that has happened to millions of people everywhere. You get dumped and wonder why. A million thoughts run through your head.  You wonder why that dude just disappears or that girl runs off with another dude. We see why in Ringworld and in some way to ME it is comforting to know that even people in space gets dumped, that means no one is immune and I take comfort in that.

 

I felt bad about lying to people and needing my alone time until I read Quiet. That is one book that has changed how I view myself. I know now that I am an extreme introvert, and I even have the anxiety to go along with it BUT I AM NOT ALONE. That in itself was so comforting to know. Once I knew myself and that I am the way I am and that I am not the only one I have become proactive in telling people I need my alone time. Most are understanding. I am a semi-hermit but some people nag me to get out more and before I would give in and take an extra Neurontin to help my anxiety but now I know tat I am not the only one so I stand my ground.

So what about you do you tell people you are busy when all you want to so is to stay home on the couch in your PJ’s on the couch with a glass of wine and a good book?  Any more semi-hermits out there????

 

Hillary

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I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Book Review: Unf*ck Your Habitat: You’re Better Than Your Mess by Rachel Hoffman

Posted April 12, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 4 Comments

ISBN: 9781250102959
Book Review: Unf*ck Your Habitat: You’re Better Than Your Mess by Rachel HoffmanUnf*ck Your Habitat by Rachel Hoffman
Published by Macmillan on January 3rd 2017
Genres: House & Home, Self-Help, Motivational & Inspirational
Pages: 224
Source: library
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five-stars

Finally, a housekeeping and organizational system developed for those of us who'd describe our current living situation as a “f*cking mess” that we're desperate to fix. Unf*ck Your Habitat is for anyone who has been left behind by traditional aspirational systems. The ones that ignore single people with full-time jobs; people without kids but living with roommates; and people with mental illnesses or physical limitations. Most organizational books are aimed at traditional homemakers, DIYers, and people who seem to have unimaginable amounts of free time. They assume we all iron our sheets, have linen napkins to match our table runners, and can keep plants alive for longer than a week. Basically, they ignore most of us living here in the real world.
Interspersed with lists and challenges, this practical, no-nonsense advice relies on a 20/10 system (20 minutes of cleaning followed by a 10-minute break; no marathon cleaning allowed) to help you develop lifelong habits. It motivates you to embrace a new lifestyle in manageable sections so you can actually start applying the tactics as you progress. For everyone stuck between The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up and Adulting, this philosophy is decidedly more realistic than aspirational, but the goal is the same: not everyone will have a showcase of a home, but whatever your habitat, you deserve for it to bring you happiness, not stress.

This is a book that felt like it was written just for me. I admit it. I am a slob. However, my relationship with the Elf Prince has taken a serious turn, and I guess he expects the house that we will live in in the future to be reasonably clean. SO TIME TO GET MY ASS IN GEAR.

What I like about this book is that even though the author does have some nice talk moments most of the time it s advice like “ya gotta get off your ass” “it is gonna suck, no one likes cleaning” somehow hearing that cleaning sucks but that I DO deserve to live in a clean environment, so I just need to get up off my ass and do some 20/10’s.

The 20/10 is my favorite thing I have read out of all my cleaning books. I used to do the infamous marathon cleaning and let me tell you it has NEVER worked out well and it NEVER will. So I read to do what you can in 20 minutes and then take a ten-minute break. I downloaded the app onto my phone and made a list of all the shit I need to do and got my ass in gear and did some 20/10 and guess what my apt is now passably clean after only three days. I feel so proud.

She also gives the exact kind of pep talk that people like me need. Yes, Hillary, You have bipolar, and some days you won’t be able to get out of bed. That’s OK but the days when you feel fine to GET UP OFF YOUR ASS AND DO SOME 20/10’S!!! That kinda talk just fires me up. I know some people wouldn’t take kindly to the harshness of it, but for me, if you start me down the road to self-pity I will go down that path and never find my way back. I cant afford to do that, so I like the people that scream at me that all I need to do it to get off my damn ass and do some 20/10’s. Go to the Gym and even if you only walked ten mins that are better than sitting on my ass. Get up take a shower and put on clean PJ’s. Some day the gym and showering and putting on clean pj’s then going back to bed are all I can do, BUT I GOT OFF MY ASS. So see this is why I feel this book was written just for me.

I admit I was so inspired I bought the audio version to listen to while I clean. Hearing gets up off your ass, and all of that does pump some much-needed motivation in me.

Like I said I downloaded the app in the app store and made a list of all I need to get done and it will keep time for you. You push start and do everything you can in 20 mins then take a ten min break then work and break until u start to feel tired or antsy.

I am the ultimate slob, but this book has given me the tools and the mojo to unfuck my apt. Click To Tweet

I am gonna be honest most of my cleaning fears are because when I tried to help my mom when I was small, she would yell and scream at me for not doing it perfectly, so I quit. I DO have negative emotions tied to cleaning, and the book even addresses that. I was pleased. I was even more pleased with her suggestion you do 5 20/10? TREAT YO SELF! Go to the bookstore or get a massage or something. You gotta retrain your brain to like cleaning. I took it a step father and went and got some Mrs. Meyers stuff cause it all smalled like lavender. It cost a shitload in the health food store but I am going to try  Grove Collaborative         I will let y’all know how it goes.

No matter WHY you are a slob she addresses various reasons AND gives ways to get past the block and to get your house in order because the author is right, you DESERVE to live in a  clean environment, and you are better than your mess so buy this book and join me as we work to put out houses together!

five-stars
Hillary

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Guest Book Review: The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men and Marriage: How Love Works” by Suzanne Venker

Posted April 11, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments

ISBN: 9781618688446
Guest Book Review: The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men and Marriage: How Love Works” by Suzanne VenkerThe Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage by Suzanne Venker
Published by Simon and Schuster on February 14th 2017
Genres: Family & Relationships, Love & Romance, Marriage & Long-Term Relationships, Self-Help, General
Pages: 176
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As seen on Fox & Friends
The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage shows women who have a dominating personality how to love a man.
America is in love with the alpha female. She’s the quintessential modern woman—assertive, razor sharp, and fully in control. Her success in the marketplace is undeniable, a downright boon to society. But what happens when the alpha female gets married?
She becomes an alpha wife, of course.
An alpha wife is in charge of everything and everyone. She is, quite simply, the Boss. The problem is, no man wants a boss for a wife. That type of relationship may work for a spell, but it will eventually come crashing down. Since 1970, just as women became more and more powerful outside the home—more alpha—the divorce rate has quadrupled. And it is women who lead the charge. Today, 70% of divorce is initiated by wives.
Do men just make lousy husbands? Not at that rate, says Suzanne Venker, bestselling author of The War on Men. The truth is that women don’t know how to be wives. Why would they? That’s not what they were raised to become.
But women can learn. There’s an art to loving a man, says Venker, and any woman can master it. An alpha female herself, Venker learned how to be a wife the hard way—through trial and error. Lots of error. And here’s what she knows today—the set of skills a woman needs to pursue a career, or even to raise children, is the exact set of skills that will mess up her marriage but good. No man likes to be told what to do. And no woman respects the man who does.
The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage gives women who are used to being in charge the tools they need to make their marriages less competitive and more complementary. Part memoir, part advice, this brave manifesto argues that while marriage is more challenging for the alpha female, it is possible to find peace in your marriage. In fact, it may be easier than you think.

The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men and Marriage: How Love Works” by Suzanne Venker was just the book I needed. Being a newlywed and an alpha female myself, it was helpful to read this before I went too far down the wrong marriage path and made the same mistakes that the author did! A few points that stuck out and resonated with me were:

 

 

  1. “People who lack the ability to trust compensate by taking control.” I have had trust issues ever since my boyfriend back in freshman year of high school slept with my older brother’s ex-girlfriend and the whole school knew about it except for me. I wish it didn’t affect me the way it had, but it was during a really formative time in my life and I decided then and there that I would never again be the “stupid girl”. So I hardened my heart and I guess decided to become an ‘alpha female’ so that I wouldn’t get hurt again which has correlated to not wanting to be vulnerable in relationships and taking control when I can’t trust.
  2. Another point Suzanne made was that “no relationship can last if one person is mentally preparing to get burned by the other” and that is what made me decide to change my mindset about my husband, instead of constantly trying to protect myself, I decided that we are in this together have started to be completely vulnerable in trusting him. And honestly he hasn’t given me even a millimeter of a doubt not to, so it is about time (after 6 years of being together)!
  3. “Your attitude is the single most important determiner of your success in life and marriage.” I thought this was quite extreme but honestly quite surprisingly true. Once I mentally let go of my distrust, life has become so much easier because my mind is a lot calmer, not constantly trying to find something wrong. What I used to believe was if I found out about something before it happened, I would hurt less, but even saying that aloud now sounds kind of silly. It is better to trust first until proven wrong than the other way around.
  4. “Ironically the deepest need of the wife, to feel loved, is undermined by her disrespect.” This stuck out to me because of how true it was for me in the early days while we were still dating, in order to prove that I was in charge, I would make snarky remarks or tease him in front of my family and his friends, without realizing that it was causing a rift between us. It wasn’t until he wanted to break up with me and my family started pointing my bad habits out that I decided I needed to control my tongue and start being nicer because no one wants to love someone who is mean all the time!
  5. “Be easy to please and you will be easy to love.” When I read that I was like, yea right I am going to be easy – he needs to earn my love! But Suzanne makes a good point; first off, I am already married so honestly he shouldn’t need to be constantly pursuing me, but also who wants to feel that they need to be on presentation mode all the time? She connects this way of thinking with the American culture that “easy women” aren’t the ideal. This may be true outside of marriage but once you are married it is a whole different situation.
  6. “Culture elevates women in not changing themselves, but that is ridiculous because you need to improve.” No one should change themselves for a man, but once you have decided on a man and in order to constantly be growing in the same direction, one must change! When I first met my husband we were in college, now we are both in the working world and completely different people than we were just 6 years ago. If we didn’t grow and adapt to each other, we probably wouldn’t still be together.
  7. “In the same way women release while talking, men release sexually.” I thought this was an extremely interesting point that isn’t often talked about! If my husband wasn’t around to listen to me and talk to me, I know I would go crazy and have all these pent up feelings, so to relate talking to sex is very interesting to me because I have a tangible way of understanding how he would feel if I were ever to “hold sex” against him or use it as a weapon!

 

Suzanne made lots of other interesting points in her book, which you will have to read for yourself to find out what you relate to most. Overall, it was a very easy and eye-opening read for me, partly because I agreed on a lot of her points, but also it was packed full of useful and actionable items. Definitely learned a lot from it and will be implementing these new insights in my marriage life!

I recently featured Suzanne Venker on my blog, Ladybossblogger.com, a blog that highlights female entrepreneurs via interviews – please check out her interview by clicking here.

Hillary

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Posted April 9, 2017 by Hillary in Sunday Salon / 1 Comment

 

The Sunday Salon

On Friday I made an important discovery. I discovered that I could listen to podcasts while doing other stuff…like cleaning. Before I had to sit down and focus but now I can clean while firing up my faves (so far) podcast!

Speaking of fave podcasts have any y’all heard S-Town yet? I listened to all seven episodes on Friday. The Dr had to ask me to please pause the podcast until after the appointment was done. THAT was how enthralled I was with it. I hadn’t heard Serial because that was before I had my implant, so I have no idea about that one yet, but you can bet your bottom dollar I am going to listen to it now.

I had pre-op on Friday where they asked me a bunch of questions to which all the answers was no, no, no, o they said I passed the physical for the surgery. I will be getting my second CI  on the 17th. The Dr says since I did so well with the first one they expect the second one to do as well.

I had to take a break from the gym as I pulled the ligament in the bottom of my foot while running. I did not even think that was possiv=ble. Yes, it hurt and my friend forced me to go to the DR where they told me. They said the only cure was rest SO rest I did. It feels all better now, so I am going to try to go gym tomorrow.

I think my reading slump is going away. I hope… I have been listening to audiobooks. Audiobooks used to frustrate the hell out of me. Now though like with podcasts I can listen while cleaning.  I have been listening to audiobooks that I have already read in print but now I am branching out to books I haven’t read in print yet. Speaking of audiobooks, why do some people insist on playing music in the background? I mean if I wanted to listen to a song I would fire up my Spotify. I was listening to Anne Lamont Stitches, and there is what I think is organ music in the background, and it irritates me.

When you read this, I will be in church. That’s right I got my sorry behind back to church. My faith used to be a big part of who I was and I sort of think that the mild unease that has been an undercurrent in my life is due to me not putting my faith up front and center as I should. So I called my friend, and I can’t wait to see everyone’s faces when I show up.

Later when I get home, I am going to read The Cozy Life. I know it is spring, but we can be cozy in the summer also, right? I hope so. I meant to read it waaaayyyyy back but reading slump. I am glad THAT seems to be ending.

 

 

Hillary

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I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Review: Ringworld (Ringworld #1) by Larry Niven

Posted April 7, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 1 Comment

ISBN: 9780575077027
Review: Ringworld (Ringworld #1) by Larry NivenRingworld by Larry Niven
Published by Gollancz on 2005
Pages: 288
Format: Paperback
Source: own
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four-stars

Pierson's puppeteers, strange, three-legged, two-headed aliens, have discovered an immense structure in a hitherto unexplored part of the universe. Frightened of meeting the builders of such a structure, the puppeteers set about assembling a team consisting of two humans, a puppeteer and a kzin, an alien not unlike an eight-foot-tall, red-furred cat, to explore it. The artefact is a vast circular ribbon of matter, some 180 million miles across, with a sun at its centre - the Ringworld. But the expedition goes disastrously wrong when the ship crashlands and its motley crew faces a trek across thousands of miles of the Ringworld's surface.

I remember this was one of my most favorite books in high school. However, at 36 I was just like meh. I mean it is a good book, and it is a great model for newer Sci-Fi, but It just didn’t hold my attention like it used to. I think part of the reason that I was so meh about this book was that I had the plot of a different book confused with this one and unless I am confusing Ringworld with Ben Bova’s Mars I have no I idea what that book could be. So when I got to the end, and it was not the book I thought it was well.I was unnaturally angry. Heh.

If I was to judge the book based on its own merits, then it is just an ok book. The plot was….there is not a lot happening plot wise. I was bored most of the time until I got to the end THEN I loved it. The last 20 pages were outstanding. Does it make up for the rest of the book? It stopped me from giving it a three and instead Give it a 4. I DO want to read the other Ringworld books cause I am dying to know about the Ringworld Civilization.  I just hope the other books are faster paced. I can’t take much more details of flying on and on and on. Ughh.

This is considered a sci-fi classic, and many later themes in sci-fi were based on Ringworld. So it is an important book. I feel that we can hold a book up and say it is important but still think it is crap personally. I am glad that Nevin was able to make such a mark on modern sci-fi. Word of caution though, I read that a lot of feminist take issue with his books cause the women characters are one dimensional. Personally, this fails to bother me. I mean I read the Gor Saga so it is not like I can tell people how much I love Gor and then turn around and be all like well the ladies in Ringworld lacked a personality. They DO, but I feel that those people are missing the point. Teela was a product of the Birth RIight Lotteries, and the other lady doesn’t even show up until the last 20 pages, so not a lot of room to develop her. I haven’t read the other books, so I cant say if they make an appearance there or not but for THIS book I get what the author was doing.  But if you are the type to shy away because of what an author believes or behavior then well….This book will piss you off. ..For the others out there I would say it depends on how much you like hard sci-fi. If you like it then read it but if you don’t then stay far away from this book. If you are fascinated with space and aliens and such then there is enough to get you through to the good part and believe me this book can be tedious at times.

 

 

four-stars
Rating Report
Plot
four-stars
Characters
five-stars
Writing
five-stars
Pacing
three-half-stars
Cover
five-stars
Overall: four-half-stars
Hillary

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Things I Learned in March 2017

Posted April 5, 2017 by Hillary in life / 0 Comments

The things I learned in March of 2017

I need to exercise to be happy and productive

 I started exercising again because I could feel my depression and anxiety making a comeback. That was a no-no, so I dusted off my gym membership and went back last week. It was BRUTAL. I am amazed at how quickly you can get out of shape. It is too soon for the whole relieving depression effect to set in, but from last year I know that it will, and I can’t wait. Being mildly depressed is no fun.

The world strongest coffee is now available in the US. And yes, I bought a bag. I will let y’all know how it goes.

That I supposedly look better blonde than I do with my natural black hair

here is a picture of me with blonde highlights.
I am getting so many compliments. Some people even told me that I look better blonde than I do with my natural black hair. I can’t help but wonder if I looked ugly with the hair color that God gave me and I just did not know it.

That after a year of tears and frustration I can understand webinars and podcasts

yay!!! And I will get a second implant on April 17th. I am not looking forward to the pain afterward, but I can’t wait to have some good pain killers again. #kiddingnotkidding

That food delivery service is not my cup of tea, but the Blue Apron Wine delivery service is right my alley.

I just find it hard to commit to what they offer. I mean what if I don’t WANT to eat fish? You do get some control but not enough for me to justify the price. The wine from what I have tasted was fabulous, so I am keeping that subscription.

That Hard Apple Cider In the spring is not as good as hard apple cider in the fall.

I was at the food store, and I saw Hard Apple Cider. I love the stuff. I look forward to it every fall. Somehow it did not bring as much pleasure as it does in the autumn season. This is a reminder that some things are better during certain seasons and to leave them there.

Two blogs are better than one

 I joined PursuitHQ and people told me that I should have a personal blog where I write about whatever I want to and a “work” blog, so I created a work blog where I will always remain professional and this here blog where I will write whatever the hell I want to. It feels like a big relief to know that I have a playing space where I can be as creative as I want to be and not worry about scaring potential clients away.

One should always back up their blogs

When I went to make a second blog I need up accidentally deleting this one. Lucky for me Bluehost had made backups. Kinda. The last one was about a year ago, so I lost a whole year worth of posts. *frownyface*  Oh well all my book reviews are on Goodreads at least.You can bet I paid for Vault Press for both my blogs after that.
Hillary

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I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Sunday Salon

Posted April 2, 2017 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 3 Comments

The Sunday Salon

Anyone notice anything different? Yeah, I changed my blog layouts. I a bunch of people told me that I would have a lot more luck with writing if I separated my personal blog (this one) from my work blog so I was trying to make another blog and ended up using this one and me couldn’t remember how I got it like I had it, so I just redid it. I also lost a year worth to posts frowny face That will teach me to make regular backups.

I don’t even know where this year has gone it like I blinked and it is April already. I got to make the rest of this year count. I feel like I have been coasting along not living.

The countdown is on for the second implant surgery. To say I am nervous is an understatement, I just hope it doesn’t knock me on my ass like it did last year. That was the worst pain of my life. However being about to hear on both sides of my head will be worth it. Pre-Op is Friday. The Surgery is on the 17th.

I finally got my ass back to the gym last week. I am determined to get to 199 by December.  I know if I eat right and continue my workouts I can do it.  I started working out to help my depression and anxiety was getting noticeable, and while it is too soon to have any effect, I know with time it will help. Does anyone else feel like they gotta take a nap after working out? I work out in the morning first thing then I come home and shower and have to take a nap. I hope it goes away soon as I got shit to do.

I am still reading Ringworld I am hoping that I will finish it today. I remember it being one of my favorite books as a teenager, but at the age of 36, I fail to see they hype. I keep thinking there is something I am missing and so I read on. I hope I am not thinking of a different book if so I am gonna be disappointed. I am almost at the end, so we shall see. I found out there are other books in the series.

I only slept for an hour last night, so I am just gonna take it easy today and read. After Ringworld, I am gonna read unfuck your habitat. I hope my writing and reading mojo is back for real now.

Hillary

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I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!

Review: The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks

Posted January 14, 2016 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments

ISBN: 0061735345
Review: The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay HendricksThe Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks
Published by HarperOne on April 21st 2009
Pages: 224
Format: ebook
Source: Scribed
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four-half-stars

Most of us believe that we will finally feel satisfied and content with our lives when we get the good news we have been waiting for, find a healthy relationship, or achieve one of our personal goals. However, this rarely happens. Good fortune is often followed by negative emotions that overtake us and result in destructive behaviors. "I don't deserve this," "this is too good to be true," or any number of harmful thought patterns prevent us from experiencing the joy and satisfaction we have earned. Sound familiar? This is what New York Times bestselling author Gay Hendricks calls the Upper Limit Problem, a negative emotional reaction that occurs when anything positive enters our lives. The Upper Limit Problem not only prevents happiness, but it actually stops us from achieving our goals. It is the ultimate life roadblock.
In The Big Leap, Hendricks reveals a simple yet comprehensive program for overcoming this barrier to happiness and fulfillment, presented in a way that engages both the mind and heart. Working closely with more than one thousand extraordinary achievers in business and the arts—from rock stars to Fortune 500 executives—whose stories are featured in these pages, the book describes the four hidden fears that are at the root of the Upper Limit Problem.
The Big Leap delivers a proven method for first identifying which of these four fears prevents us from reaching our personal upper limit, and then breaking through that limitation to achieve what Hendricks refers to as our Zone of Genius. Hendricks provides a clear path for achieving our true potential and attaining not only financial success but also success in love and life.

 

my review

A facebook book club decided to read this book so I had it on Scribed and I read it. It has been a couple of weeks since I read it and honestly not much stuck. Maybe I am getting old and maybe it was just an ok book.

I do remember he talked about the upper limit problem. Tat is where we place limits on ourselves because we are scared. This really struck me because I realize that I do this a lot. Like I am afraid people will hate my reviews cause I write them they way I want to and not in a critical way. This is supposed to be fun not a project for grad school. Anyway, I have started to reach out to more bloggers and I am trying to be all fierce in my writing blog and get more clients and all of that. Fear be damned.

I remember liking this book when I read it so I am going with the I am getting old mentality and say that’s why it didn’t really stick with me.

final verdict

it-was-ok

four-half-stars
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Book Review:How to Blog for Profit without Selling Your Soul by Ruth Soukup

Posted January 13, 2016 by Hillary in Book Reviews / 0 Comments

Book Review:How to Blog for Profit without Selling Your Soul by Ruth SoukupHow to Blog for Profit without Selling Your Soul by Ruth Soukup
on January 1st 1970
Pages: 144
Format: ebook
Goodreads
four-stars

Whether you've been blogging for years or just weeks, How to Blog For Profit offers solid guidance for writing great content, creating compelling images, capturing viral growth, and maximizing revenue. It is an invaluable tool for experienced and novice bloggers alike, explaining not only what it takes to create an authentic, successful, and profitable blog, but how to get there.
Change the Way You Blog:Empower yourself to stop comparing your blog to othersUnderstand what makes awesome content and how to create itDiscover the critical importance of compelling presentationIncrease your blog traffic through proven techniquesDevelop a solid Pinterest strategy for capturing viral growthBoost your revenue through diversified income streamsLearn how to work smarter not harder

my review

With all the talk of making money blogging, I became curious and was looking through kindle unlimited when I found this book. I admit I have never heard of Ruth Soukup as I am not a frugal, cleaning person. I hire someone to clean for me and I eat out almost every day SO…. I thought well HOW do people make money anyway> So onward I read.

Holy shit y’all she really does tell EVERYTHING she knows. I was blown away at all the way I COULD make money just by blogging. I had never known there were so many ways one could do that. As a book blogger, I would never require an author to pay me but I could do sponsored posts and such. She explains exactly how to go about doing this.

She also tells how to get traction on Social Media, especially Pinterest. I found a some tips that I took and used. The bad part is that in order for a lot of these things to work, you need to have a sizeable blog readership. I admit I have never tried to really grow this blog. It was all just for shits and giggles.  She also gives tips on how to grow your blog. I LOVE eating out advice in books like theses so I am implementing a shit ton of them.  We shall see how fast this wittle book blog grows.

Never fear I would never just take on ANYTHING. If I DO sponsored posts it will be something about books or reading. I refuse to be one of those bloggers who post ads every damn where. For example, I used to really like Bookriot but with a shit ton of ads assaulting my eyes? ugh. Plus I see some of my favorite bloggers doing that and it is clear that just slapped up some good AdWords and called it a day. I HATE IT. I don’t care if I get a million readers for this blog I ANIT DOING IT. I hate going to a blog and seeing ads all over the place. It makes me want to install Adblocker again. In fact, I think I will hold on installs ad blocker  Ok rant over

She did tell other ways of getting money. Like I said I like the idea of sponsored posts and maybe a tasteful ad or two on my sidebar. She tells how to write a media kit and how to reach out to people to do different kinds of sponsored posts.

I think this book is well worth the money. It has a shit ton of ideas and is definitely a book I will re-read again.

final verdict

liked-it

four-stars
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About Hillary

I am a book lover who loves to read and write. I only leave my apartment for food and MOAR books. I love to meet new people online so don't be afraid to say hi!